Type 1 (Enneagram) Mom
A few days ago on my IG stories, I asked my mom friends to share their daily schedules with me. Stay at home moms and working moms alike, I wanted to find out if there were any consistencies with what works. As a Type 1 mom, I LOVE resources that are just upfront and like “Do it this way”, “This is what works.” And of course everything does and will fluctuate, but it might provide a good starting point for other moms that function a little like me. And actually, despite the number, I had several moms ask me to share what other schedules I received. It just goes to show that we’re all just always doing the best we can, trying to do right by our kids (and keep our sanity while we’re at it)!
My predicament is a little different. (Not unheard of or any type of especially difficult scenario), but something I have a hard time finding a resource for… so I decided to create my own. I am both a stay at home and a working mom in equal parts. When I go to work, I bring my son with me. When I go home with my son, I bring my work with me. My aim is to come up with some semblance of structure that will work for us both, as well as my business partner and our employees. I want to be a kick-ass mom who gives her kid undivided attention, and I want to be a kick-ass business owner who is able to be productive and efficient and who carries my own weight within the company too. And, while we’re at it, I also want to be just me sometimes, the me who can sit down by herself for awhile and write and unwind. Writing is how I process. It’s how I stay present. And it’s been on the back burner for far. too. long. My problem practically is that while Arlo has a consistent bedtime routine and sleeps through the night most nights, his only real naps happen while I’m driving either to or from work! Which, obviously, doesn’t allow me any of that kid-free time to actually accomplish much.
Anyway! I was asked to share the schedules I received, so I made a list of 6 examples to show you.
As you can see, so much of these schedules from different moms are relatively the same. Some have shorter naps, longer outdoor playtimes, different windows of free time… but! Most of our days go about this way.
Now here’s the bitter/sweets in my mind. 1. I am not alone. Most moms sent their schedules with the disclaimer that any of these times and activities may change on any given day, depending on whats actually going on that day. 2. Theres a few “ish”s out there. “At 12ish, this happens, at 4ish, this happens…” My 1 brain doesn’t like this and naturally kind of functions like a drill sergeant. I try to minimize the “ish”s. But with our babies, there are so many variables. So let it go, lady! (-me, talking to me.) And 3. I get to try again each morning. There are so many aspects of this gig that are trial and error, right? Then once you finally “get it all figured out”, something changes and we have to figure it out all over again. But His mercies are new every morning, my fellow moms! And that’s good news.
Thanks to everyone who shared their schedule with me. I took bits and pieces and put together my own first draft for Arlo that I promised to share. So, here’s my rough draft!
We’ll see how it goes! When it comes down to it, and much like everyone else- each day will likely look a little different. For example. On Sundays, we go to church at 9:00. So obviously a nap at home won’t be happening by 10:00. And Wednesday-Friday when I bring him to work with me, the times we’re needed there will vary. Hmmm. Watch me make a sample schedule for every. single. day. My husband says I need to be more flexible. Not sure where he got that idea!
At the end of the day, planning makes me happy and helps me have at least an idea of what’s around the corner. So although this post really has nothing to do with the Enneagram, I’m not sure my 1-ness has ever been more obvious!